Written by Tangible Triumph’s Team Member: Rayna
Founder & Owner of: RAYN OF CHAOS
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Similar to love, forgiveness is a choice. It’s a choice that often needs to be made repeatedly.
It’s the choice to allow ourselves to heal from the hurts that have been dealt. It is a choice that is not contingent upon anything else, beyond a love of Self. You have to love yourself enough to recognize that forgiveness will help you recover from the pain.
Maybe you believe you need closure, or you need to know *why* the hurtful event happened… maybe those are truly needs for you, but don’t let them be impediments to forgiveness.
Forgiveness is acknowledging what has happened and saying that you’ll move on. It’s applying ointment to a burn, daily until the burn has healed. It isn’t a one-and-done thing. In this moment, choose to forgive what needs to be forgiven. Let your heart and mind have a break from the anger, resentment, the pain. And ten minutes from now, if all those negative feelings well up again, choose forgiveness again. It isn’t about demanding (or getting) and apology from someone else. It isn’t about hearing someone say they were wrong. It’s about letting go, so the festering mental wounds can begin to close. It won’t happen overnight.
With practice, the choice will become easier to make. The hurt will hurt less. The choice is yours.