Quoted once by motivational speaker Jim Rohn: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” His statement relates to the law of averages, the theory that any given situation’s results will be the average of all possible outcomes. Great, that’s a very true, expert observation. For statistics. For our lives, it doesn’t really apply. So why did Rohn ever even say it at all?
Because it does apply to our lives.
Think about it for a second. Think about the people in your life, specifically those you chose to be in it. Your friends, your acquaintances. Now, think about what they’re like. Their personalities, hobbies, likes and dislikes, work ethics, personal beliefs. I’ll bet you’re a lot like them. I’ll bet you share some hobbies, beliefs, opinions, behaviors with them.
I’ll bet they changed you without you even knowing it.
Now there’s nothing wrong with that. It happens to all of us. Like it or not, we’re greatly influenced by those closest to us. Like Rohn said, we’re the average of the five people we spend the most time with. So naturally, we’ll pick up some of their habits, some of their tendencies, some of their personality traits and make them our own, in a way. This is why it’s important to take a step back and assess who you’re surrounding yourself with.
Are they helping you, or hurting you?
Now that we know that the people closest to us have an impact on who we are, we have to ask ourselves whether or not that impact is a positive one. When you share an opinion of yours, how do they respond? Do they give you their undivided attention and listen, or ignore or even criticize you? When you reach a goal of yours, how do they react? Do they applaud you and celebrate your victory, or are they the first to try to devalue it? Are they your support team or your critics?
Perhaps one of the most important questions we can ever ask ourselves is if the people we call friends are really friends at all. If you surround yourself with arrogant, critical people, ignorant of you or your feelings, who’s to say you won’t treat others the same way? Thus, the importance of gathering your own support team is invaluable. Surrounding yourself with people who lift you up, instead of drag you down, who encourage you, instead of criticize you is a key step on the path to success and to a better, more fulfilling life. One where you don’t have to fear speaking your mind or striving for your goals. And if it means having to weed out some of the bad to get to the good, then so be it. You owe it to yourself to be surrounded by people who will help you rise up to your greatest potential.
After all, aren’t you worth it?
“The minute you step away from negative people in your life you will instantly see the beauty in your horizon.” – Bill Walsh
By Tangible Triumph Team Member Jake from Jake’sJournal