Stuck In The Past? Is This Your Problem?

Written by Tangible Triumph’s Team Member: Jake

Founder & Owner of: Jake’s Journal

Tangible Triumph’s Team, Contributor Life, Ventures, Views, Baking, Cooking, Meditation


 

I think this is something a lot of us deal with, maybe on a daily basis. Our lives are vast oceans of experiences, both good and bad. I wish I could say ours are full of nothing but good experiences, of perfect days full of fun and laughter, days that seem to go by way too fast. I can’t, though, because I’d be lying to you. Rather, there are unfortunately plenty of bad experiences, experiences we wish to forget, scattered throughout our lives.

In that lies the problem.

The not-so-fun times are problems at the present moment, sure, but in time they become nothing more than memories, hopefully ones where you can recall yourself triumphantly overcoming your obstacle. For some of us, though, they didn’t have such happy endings. And that’s OK, it happens to the best of us. There are some times in life where you have to swallow your pride and admit that while it got the best of you, there’s always tomorrow. Some things in life seem to be impossible walls to scale, and I wish I knew why they have to exist.

For others, maybe some of you reading this, you stay stuck in that wall’s shadow.

The event, whatever it was, got the best of you, and you really don’t know how to go on without constantly feeling regret and remorse for it. You beat yourself up over it, and you know it’s not healthy, but there doesn’t seem to really be any other option.

Well let me stop you there.

Let me encourage you to realize that there is another option, and I think you’ll like it. It involves accepting yourself. Accepting who you are, the mistakes you made in the past, and moving on. Because they’re just that: in the past. In a period of time that you have no control over. So why dwell over them? Why not instead look to the future. After all, that is one thing you have complete control over.

So you can’t start over. It’s not an easy fact to face. But you can start again, and you can start right now. Realize that what you do now will determine how your life unfolds. That instead of looking at your past mistakes, look at them as lessons. Ask yourself what you’ve learned from making them, for what most people fail to realize is that they’re actually valuable life-lessons just disguised as hard times.

We can’t change the past. But we can decide our futures by what we do now.

“Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.” – Bil Keane  

18 thoughts on “Stuck In The Past? Is This Your Problem?

  1. Pingback: Stuck In The Past? Is This Your Problem? — Tangible Triumph – Little Did She Know

    • Hey Lina. Yeah I think so, just as how choosing to dwell on the past is a choice, so is making the choice to start again. I feel that no one will tell you or force you to do it, but rather, it has to be something you do for yourself, a sudden spark of realization inside you that makes you see that living in the past will keep you stuck in a rut, unable to look to the future. Like many things in life, I feel it’s a choice we have to make for ourselves if we’re to keep moving forward in our lives.

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    • Thanks for reading Dorothy, glad you liked it! You know, that’s something I didn’t consider. It’s certainly true though; those amends you have to make can be a reason for why you’re stuck in the past. Regret truly is a nasty thing, something we all deal with from time to time.

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    • Thanks for reading! I hope it offered some help. No, when the past has a grip on you, it isn’t always easy to break away from. But instead of focusing on its tight grip, try focusing on the future in front of you instead. I think that once you start doing that, its grip will slowly start to loosen 🙂

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